Be grateful on what you have
Forgot your fairytale ideas of happy ever. Real life is more dynamic, and thereby, more exiting. Set aside all those “observation you like to point out” about how other couple seems happier or sweeter or better off. Or how other spouse seems more romantic or caring or responsible. Instead, make a list of the 10 things you’re grateful for about your spouse.
Once you truly commit to making this list, you’ll start to remember the qualities that attracted you to your spouse in the first place. The value of this exercise is that is get you into the mindset that this is your marriage so you have to build on each other’s real strength and qualities. The list will also remind you that you actually live with another human being who said “I do” to spending his life with you, even if your not perfect either.
And that’s more than what other people have.