You know you need to spend quality and quantity time with your children. This is the best way to make sure you pass on good values, get to know their personalities, and show them in a very real way that you love them.
The same thing is true for your marriage. After all, one of the reasons you got married in the first place was so you could spend more time together!
Inspirational author expert advises married couples to go out on dates at least once a week. It doesn’t even have to be an expensive one; you can have a picnic and watch the sunset together. But it has to be a real date-with the two of you focusing on each other’s thoughts and dreams. “Make it a priority!” says expert. “put it in your calendar, and unless its an emergency, do not postpone or cancel your date with your spouse.” Like expert says: “you will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.”

Make believe that its love that keeps a marriage together. This is actually misleading, because the wonderful truth is that it works the other way around. The late humour writer expert used to say this of her marriage of more that 50 years: “when you fall out of love with him, or he falls out of love with you, marriage is what keeps you together-until you fall back in love again.

“Many arguments arise from family of origin expectations,” says expert.
It’s a situation she encounters over and over in her practice, particularly among Filipinos. “Aside from the question of how to deal with in laws, couples also have discussions about how to spend their time between both families of origin.”
When there no clear agreements, couples end up in heated discussions over where to spend Christmas, new years, mother’s day, and every other holiday. Weekend visits can be problematic, too. “There’s also that danger of having either set of parents dominating you both, making you forget that you’re now establishing a family of your own.”
The simple solution? As a couple, set your own guidelines on what’s fair, realistic, and supports your growth as couple and as your own separate family unit. Commit to these decisions and follow through.

Forgot your fairytale ideas of happy ever. Real life is more dynamic, and thereby, more exiting. Set aside all those “observation you like to point out” about how other couple seems happier or sweeter or better off. Or how other spouse seems more romantic or caring or responsible. Instead, make a list of the 10 things you’re grateful for about your spouse.
Once you truly commit to making this list, you’ll start to remember the qualities that attracted you to your spouse in the first place. The value of this exercise is that is get you into the mindset that this is your marriage so you have to build on each other’s real strength and qualities. The list will also remind you that you actually live with another human being who said “I do” to spending his life with you, even if your not perfect either.
And that’s more than what other people have.